Observe Your Child"s Behavior To Understand Them

You would look at your child"s tantrum with the same eyes if you knew that when a child goes through a tantrum what he is saying is: “Sorry, I do not do this to annoy you. I am frustrated that I can not do certain things because I am very small, help me to do it, please! "

And what would you think if under your child"s challenging behavior when he says, “I will not do what you say and you can not force me!", There is a real message that says, “I just want you to realize that I am here, pay attention to me and spend time with me “?

All human behavior is driven by an emotional need to feel connected and important (contribution) to the people who make up our social groups (family, school, friends, work) and everything we do is focused on establishing that connection to feel loved for whom we love or appreciate.

At birth, we humans have the same capacity as an adult (we have even more neurons), but our synaptic connections (bridges that connect neurons with others) are “virgin," have no knowledge. We do not even know how to walk, talk, eat alone, know how to behave, reflect on what we do, bathe, write, read, etc., etc., etc. We learn in what we grow. Also, most of our behaviors are directed by our right hemisphere, that is, we are pure emotion, we are dominated by emotions! Hence, childhood goes through many cycles and moments like tantrums, sexual exploration, “rebellion," denial and many others that we all pass through. But everything has a purpose and always,

The educational task of all parents and caregivers of children is precise to be sensitive to those hidden needs under the behaviors of their children or students to know how to accompany them and guide them in their growth to become safe, self-sufficient, emotionally stable adults and with full capacity to pursue their happiness and self-realization.

This is why it is so important and fundamental to acquire knowledge that helps us in the first instance to self-know ourselves as human beings, second, to know us in our individuality and to know our children to know how to guide them better on this path called healthy life!

We want to invite you to deepen this knowledge and much more by participating in our last workshop of the year of Positive Discipline “Communication, Knowledge and Autonomy."

The purpose of the workshop is to learn and share experiences and reflections around our parenting, that is why the quota is limited to only 20 participants.

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Make A Positive Discipline Routine As Your Bestfriend

The following example describes how to put together a positive discipline routine for bedtime, but the procedure is applicable to any routine of the day. Tell your child that together they will do a bedtime routine and that this will help them to organize and avoid conflicts and delays.

Take a leaf and a pen and ask the child what he needs to do to get ready to go to sleep. Your little one will start to share things like: watching TV, putting on my pajamas, playing games for a while, brushing my teeth, drinking my milk, reading a story, etc, etc …

Without pretending to establish an order, the child is sharing you. If the little one says something inappropriate that at your discretion is not part of the routine, do not put it and briefly explain why that would not get into the routine.

Once you have all the steps (check that there are no more than 5 or 6 actions), you tell them that now they will put a logical order and together they begin to enumerate actions, eg: 1) watch a little TV, 2) take a bath, 3) dine or drink milk, 4) brush your teeth, 5) put on your pajamas, 6) read a story and sleep!

Now that they already have an ordered list, it is exported to a graphics format so that it can be viewed in a fun and useful way, such as a poster board. You can represent the steps of the routine through drawings, magazine clippings, pictures taken from the internet or printed photos of your own child doing the actions! But remember that whatever the medium, you must involve the child in creating his routine and ask him where he wants to put it to keep a healthy routine.

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