Punishment is a measure taken without respecting the person in front of you, without measuring the scope of the sanction and in an altered state of mind. A consequence is a measure taken calmly, thinking and warning the effect that is coming, without reproaches, cries, bad manners, and always about the action or behavior manifested, never about the feelings or emotions expressed by the child; these have to be validated and respected.

For example, a child who throws an object because he has been angry can be punished with anger, shouting, sending him to his room, etc., or you can say that we understand his anger but has as a consequence to pick up the spoiled and try to replace it. Punishment is a reactive measure, the child behaves badly, and the adult enters power struggle, there are a winner and a loser, does not take into account the child"s decision-making process, feelings, thoughts, nullifies the possibility of deciding, is denied the ability to understand.

The consequences are proactive, the child behaves badly, the adult takes the opportunity for the child to learn conflict resolution skills that serve in the future, calm, focus, recognize, repair, find solutions, think how it would be appropriate to do one next time. This is a better and healthier practice.

Punishment is a reactive measure, the child behaves badly and the adult enters power struggle, there is a winner and a loser, does not take into account the child"s decision-making process, feelings, thoughts, nullifies the possibility of deciding, is denied the ability to understand. The consequences are proactive, the child behaves badly, the adult takes the opportunity for the child to learn conflict resolution skills that serve in the future, calm, focus, recognize, repair, find solutions, think how it would be appropriate to do one next time.

Punishment does not enable, it is disrespectful with the capacity of children as well as not recognizing the right to a dignified treatment. The consequence encourages assessment, analysis, decision-making, training!

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