You would look at your child’s tantrum with the same eyes if you knew that when a child goes through a tantrum what he is saying is: “Sorry, I do not do this to annoy you. I am frustrated that I can not do certain things because I am very small, help me to do it, please! ”
And what would you think if under your child’s challenging behavior when he says, “I will not do what you say and you can not force me!”, There is a real message that says, “I just want you to realize that I am here, pay attention to me and spend time with me “?
All human behavior is driven by an emotional need to feel connected and important (contribution) to the people who make up our social groups (family, school, friends, work) and everything we do is focused on establishing that connection to feel loved for whom we love or appreciate.
At birth, we humans have the same capacity as an adult (we have even more neurons), but our synaptic connections (bridges that connect neurons with others) are “virgin,” have no knowledge. We do not even know how to walk, talk, eat alone, know how to behave, reflect on what we do, bathe, write, read, etc., etc., etc. We learn in what we grow. Also, most of our behaviors are directed by our right hemisphere, that is, we are pure emotion, we are dominated by emotions! Hence, childhood goes through many cycles and moments like tantrums, sexual exploration, “rebellion,” denial and many others that we all pass through. But everything has a purpose and always,
The educational task of all parents and caregivers of children is precise to be sensitive to those hidden needs under the behaviors of their children or students to know how to accompany them and guide them in their growth to become safe, self-sufficient, emotionally stable adults and with full capacity to pursue their happiness and self-realization.
This is why it is so important and fundamental to acquire knowledge that helps us in the first instance to self-know ourselves as human beings, second, to know us in our individuality and to know our children to know how to guide them better on this path called healthy life!
We want to invite you to deepen this knowledge and much more by participating in our last workshop of the year of Positive Discipline “Communication, Knowledge and Autonomy.”
The purpose of the workshop is to learn and share experiences and reflections around our parenting, that is why the quota is limited to only 20 participants.