School life is as important to a child as work and responsibilities for adults.
Vacation time is a time of leisure and fun and thinking about having to meet the demands of school routines can again bring some stress to the little ones. That is why we need to prepare our children in advance for a start or return to school.
The younger ones, when they start kindergarten, often express their anguish and bewilderment with crying and clinging tightly to their parents when they say goodbye at the school door. This is normal and is due to the activation of the alarm system of his mammalian brain called “separation anxiety.” Children become emotionally imbalanced when separated from their parents or attachment figures.
The uncertainty of a new environment, adults who are unknown to him and a lot of children he has not seen in his life, are factors that alter the child’s emotions. It is for all this that our support is very necessary and important since the loving responses that we give to this accompaniment will help the children to adapt quickly. Empathy, security, communication, and trust are the pillars of everyday life.
It is convenient to visit the school with our children before the beginning of classes. We also talk positively about school, perhaps mentioning what we liked most when we were kids. Involve them in the purchase of tools allowing them to choose some to their liking to arouse enthusiasm. Anticipate how the processes and the new routine will be; it would help to make a cardboard with drawings or photos of the steps in and place it in his sight.
The moment of the farewell at the door of the school should be serene, comfortable and affectionate but not too extensive. We must avoid hesitation when we leave because this would only cause more anxiety both the father and the child.
Take a moment to convey security with loving words such as “I know you’ll be fine and you’ll see how soon I’m back for you,” which will make the child feel calmer and when he enters school he will recover soon to start the journey.
It is also very helpful to give them some small personal object so that you can touch them when you feel anxious or distressed.
On the other hand, the transition from kindergarten to the school of our older children is also a process that we must accompany with love and respect.
Ignorance of the new educational system, wondering what teachers will be like, new classmates, etc., are often factors that can cause anxiety and stress to children. The way to support them in this transition is to maintain an open, affective and constant communication.
Motivation and support in a routine created together with the child are good allies. The method should include the preparation of the uniform, the accomplishment of tasks, search of materials, lunch and hours of falling asleep and getting up. It is good to talk to them (on a level of language that the child understands) about the importance of accessing education as one of the ways to achieve their goals.
It is also advisable to teach our children about the proper behaviors that children should have both in the classroom and at recess. Talk about the rights of children and how important it is to give as much as to ask for respect towards their person. Do not allow anyone to attack you (neither partners nor adults), teaching them to say “I DO NOT LIKE” and to ask for help in the event of an unpleasant situation.
Also, teach them to speak and express their feelings instead of hitting or assaulting. Undoubtedly, it will take some time to learn these social behavior skills, it is not something short-term, but consistency gives fantastic results.
Another important point to consider is to instruct them in sex education from a young age, teaching them according to their age what they are prepared to know. It is advisable to consult a reliable source to be informed and not to cause confusion. This is also to assure the healthy living of your child.